Family & Friends

When I first came up with the idea for this section I had hoped to be able to say, “If you’re a parent of someone suffering with a brain injury, this is what you should do”. Or, “If your colleague is returning to work after suffering a brain injury, this is what you should do”. But when I sat down to write this I soon realised that it’s not really possible to do that. I can’t tell you exactly how you can help make someone with a brain injury feel better. I’m not a medical professional. And I’m certainly not a fortuneteller. I’m just speaking from my own experiences and what worked for me may not work for everyone else!

But, what I can tell you is that you need to talk to them and try to understand how they’re feeling. Get an understanding of what makes them feel worse and help them figure out what makes them feel better. It’s about being as understanding and supportive as possible. It’s about being patient and remaining as positive as possible. Which I know is really, really, REALLY difficult. But I promise you that these 2 traits will get you through this: Positivity and Patience.

Throughout My Journey you’ll read about MY experiences, MY ups and MY downs. However, my journey also documents the various symptoms of my brain injury that I learned to firstly identify, then understand and finally manage. And none of this was achieved alone. I had my family with me every step of the way. I had friends to turn to everyday. And I had colleagues who supported me more than they will ever be able to understand when I returned to work.

It’s hard to watch someone you care for suffer, and human instinct is to want him or her to feel better straight away. You want to do everything you can do make them feel better, and sometimes you wish it was you in their place. But, no matter how hard you wish, that won’t happen.

Instead, you just have to be there for them, and with them. You have to work together as a team. Together, my support network and I learned what worked and what didn’t work for me. My Journey will give you some background as to how we figured these out and what solutions we put in place to help me manage my brain injury.

However, as not everybody wants to read all of the details, I’ve put together some Top Tips that may help you, or someone you know, who needs help and support at this time. These Tips cover off some of my most commonly encountered problems and what I did to overcome them.

Feel free to get in touch if there is anything else you’d like advice on and I’ll do my best to help!